The 3 Critical Things You Do Need To Give Up To Lose Weight.

Today we are going to talk about the three critical things you need to give up to lose weight.

More often than not, we associate weight loss with giving up great foods, alcohol, you know, stuff we like that doesn’t always like us back.

And the notion that we have to give up something to lose weight is sometimes too unattractive to overcome, so we figure it’s not a good time to lose weight.

What foods do I have to give up?

Do I have to give up everything that tastes good?

Do I have to give up wine?

Do I have to give up all pleasure from food?

Right?

What we want to know is, what is the cost-benefit ratio to losing weight?

What does the pro/con list look like?

Is it worth changing your eating habits for?

Which is a totally fair and logical equation to run before you step into something.

We would want to know the job description before we start a job, even if the pay was really really good.

So today, I want to go through the 3 things, that yes, you will have to give up if you want to be a woman who eats well and can control her weight.

I think deep down we know that something has to change if we want different results with our health and our weight.

But with so many diets out there telling us to eat this and not that it gets so confusing on what is allowed and what is not.

One diet allows fruit and another doesn’t. One diet makes you write down every single thing you eat, another doesn’t.

One has an app you need to check in with, one is just a DIY book.

So, it’s like every time you start a new diet, you’re just waiting for the off limits list and judging the burden this adventure will be on your life.

So let’s get started.

The first thing you have to give up to be a woman who eats well and controls her weight is your obsession with calories and making a calorie deficit by eating less and being more active.

Seriously. It’s really hard for me to repair your metabolism if you are still in the calories-in/calories-out mode of being.

If you are still thinking in this old, unhelpful way, I can’t get you to eat until you’re full. If you don’t eat until you’re full, you will snack. You will be hungry. You will be irritable. You will be tired. You will be dieting. Dieting doesn’t repair a damaged metabolism.

You won’t eat the things I need to eat because they will be offending the calorie rule. You will want to eat lower calorie foods, even if they damage your metabolism, just because they are low calorie.

I need to you take off the calories in/calories out hat and put on the Hormones control my weight hat.

Once you make that switch, eating well and controlling your weight is much, much easier, because you’ve stopped with the counting and not eating enough. You’ve stopped having this numbers based, points based relationship with food. And it’s hard to be a woman who eats well when you associate “well” with calories, because that’s not true. Low calorie or portion control or over-exercising isn’t eating well at all.

Number 2.

The second thing you have to give up in order to become a women who eats well to support a healthy metabolism so that you can control your weight is the quick fix, diet hard and fast, deprivation, supplements will cure me mindset.

I need you to understand that yes, we can make huge strides in 12 weeks when we are focused, but the woman who eats well the most consistently over time, more often than not, not 100% of the time, but just more often than not, wins, not only the weight game, but the health game.

Weight control is not won on gimmicks. It’s not won with supplements. It’s not won with fancy expensive shakes and protein powders. It’s not won with drama and food hacks.

These are consumer shiny things that make you feel like you are doing something good, but in reality, you are not doing anything good with your health long term, you are just supporting that brand or company, and they try to convince you that you are dependent on their monthly orders to be healthy.

They are not solutions. They are distractions.

Now, a big problem with why we want the quick fix and the supplements is because it’s hard to change long term.

Because deep down, change is hard. And your brain, evolutionarily really, really, really, doesn’t want to change. You want to lose weight, but you don’t really want to give up French fries. You want to be healthy, but you don’t want to give up Diet Coke.

So you have this conflict. Then along comes a promise of, oh, don’t change your diet, just take this supplement and it’s like your prayers were answered.

But it’s always a bandaid fix. It’s always temporary. It never really works. You may like your protein shake in the morning, but it’s not helping you.

This leads us to the third thing you have to give up to be a woman who eats well and can control her weight.

You must give up the identity of being a woman who struggles with her weight. Or a woman who diets.

In the Freese Method, we are very intentional about the language we use. I teach you a long term eating pattern. I teach you about the specific foods that damage your metabolism and the ones that help it flourish.

Our overall goal is to shift identities from women who struggle with our weight or women who can’t control our eating, or women who can’t keep weight off, to women who eat well.

If you become a woman who eats well, not a woman constantly on a diet, that’s a paradigm shift that your brain picks up on.

This means you don’t think of food or yourself as bad or good. You don’t fall off the wagon. There is no wagon.

We use the term connected or disconnected. We don’t fall off the wagon, we have episodes of unplanned eating.

Because that’s not how long term weight control works. You will be motivated by your identity as a woman who eats well to make smarter, better, tastier food choices than you did before. You won’t identify with being on a diet, because you are no longer a woman who diets. You are just a woman, moving the world who eats well.

You eat well at home.

You eat well at restaurants.

You eat well at parties.

You eat well on vacation.

I’m not saying you diet at home, eat diet food at restaurants, eat very little at parties, and blow everything off on vacation.

That’s what women who diet do.

You are a woman who eats well.

So, if you do indulge in some unplanned eating, there is little consequence and little drama, because you wills simply plug back into your identity, to your goal, and keep going. Remember, us women who can make better choices more often than not for the long run will win the game.

And here’s the cool part. The longer you play the game, the easier it is to play. The more metabolically flexible you become. So when you do have birthday cake or chips and salsa on girls night, you. are. fine.

So let’s recap the 3 critical things you have to give up to lose weight.

1. Your obsession with calories in and calories out.

2. The quick and dirty, products will save me mindset.

3. Identifying as a woman who struggles with her weight and is always on a diet.

I want to invite you into something better.

Something real.

I want to invite you to the possibility of being able to control your weight permanently without being beholden to a brand or tricked by marketing that is pretending to be nutrition.

I want to invite you to a relationship with food that doesn’t ask, how much will this cost me, but offers, how much more could my life be?

I want to invite you into a new identity.

As a woman who eats well.

• Women who eat well enjoy food.
• They enjoy eating.
• They control their weight easily.
• They have wonderful health.
• They have amazing skin.

Remember, you have what it takes to lose weight, you just need to repair your metabolism first. And eating well and leaning into the identity of a woman who eats well is the path to that repair!